everchangingmuse
21 July 2017 @ 10:18 pm
I went to the GYN-Oncologist yesterday. My mother-in-law drove me out the hour to the office. The appointment was a standard GYN appointment, at least in terms of PAP things.

The doctor was nice. He started by asking me what I knew about my current situation, and then went on to clarify things for me.

According to the analysis of my biopsy, there's a 68% chance that the tissue they took is cancerous. But, he said that's a conservative percentage, and to assume that it is indeed cancer until they can examine it more closely.

It's not almost-cancer anymore. It's being called cancer. That's scary.

The doctor was quick to tell me that it's one of the easiest cancers to treat, and that they do the procedures like mine ten to fifteen times a week. He then explained exactly what is going to happen. Hysterectomy. My uterus, cervix, Fallopian tubes, and lymph nodes that attach to the uterus are all being removed. They'll dye those with ink so they don't take the ones attached to my bladder or anything. Five hole-shaped incisions in my belly, kind of like hole punches, to insert instruments and things. Then, they'll remove my uterus through my vagina. Part of the pap was to make sure the vaginal opening was large enough to accommodate the uterus.

As for when this surgery will take place, that's still undecided. The person in charge of it will be calling me to schedule and give me information by mid-week next week. If I don't hear from them, the doctor said to call myself. I've got the cards for both that person and the doctor.

I'm going to take the first opportunity presented for the surgery, obviously. The doctor says recovery time will be between 2 and 4 weeks. And the surgery might not happen before school starts. At this point, I'd prefer it be a week or two after the kids come back, so I can prep them for what's coming and start the school year off on my terms.

I will have to talk to my co-advisers in NHS. With this coming up, I can't devote the mental energy to dealing with induction and all the start-of-year stuffs. Too much stress, and I'm already getting tired just from minimal effort from stress. The idea of adding to it? Nope. I'm going to be reducing Anime Club meetings at the beginning of the year as well, unless I can find a new co-sponsor or sponsor helper who's willing to corral that many kids on Fridays. We'll see.

So, yeah. Uterine cancer. Fun stuff. Anyone else reading this ever have cancer treatments? How'd they go for you? So far, no one's saying I need chemo, but I may need additional surgery to remove the ovaries, depending on how far the cancer's spread in my reproductive system. If I were a few years older, there wouldn't be a question about keeping them - they'd just go.
 
 
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everchangingmuse
19 July 2017 @ 09:29 pm
So much has happened in the last few days, I can't limit a post to just one topic. So, in no particular order:

1. My sister got married! We went down last Friday to meet family and do the rehearsal dinner. It was amazing to see my extended family again! Rooming with my brother and his girlfriend...not so much. I got maybe 3 hours of sleep between Friday and Saturday, due to an incident. I was up at 4:40 Saturday morning, so I could go pick up my sister and her maid of honor and get them to the salon for their 6am appointment. We stopped at Starbucks to pick up drinks, and once I'd gotten them and their things settled, I went back out to pick up donuts for the bridal party (and me!). I also had to run out and pick up a full clothes steamer - the travel-sized one they had wasn't robust enough to steam her wedding dress. She offered to pay me back for it, but we've wanted a steamer for a while, and her wedding provided an excuse.

We got her to the venue and into her dress, and the ceremony was gorgeous. My sister was gorgeous. She was beaming and her eyes smiled as much as her mouth. Her fiance was nervous, but just as excited as she was. I got very misty eyed, but couldn't quite cry, because they both were so happy and so very obviously in love. I didn't end up crying till my dad's speech at the reception. The reception was very fun. It started a little late, thanks to a snafu with my sister's dress - the people who'd tailored it didn't give very detailed instructions as to how to properly bustle the train - but no one noticed or cared, aside from my sister. We ate, hung out, danced - and got my parents to dance a few times! - and had a general good time. We blew bubbles at her and her husband as they left the reception, and as everyone started drifting away, my brother and I helped her maid of honor clean up.

She is currently off on her honeymoon in Europe. My sister has never been abroad, so she's going to be so excited! I was completely psyched about her wedding, and being able to help her get ready and get her off on her new phase of life made me so happy.

2. I got the wedding equivalent of "con crud". Not sure entirely what it was, but probably a combination of many, many factors. When we got back to the hotel, I passed out. My wife and I didn't end up going to dinner with the family because I couldn't keep my eyes open. I woke up enough to eat a sandwich, then passed back out. I ended up throwing up before breakfast, and being completely wiped all day - to the point that my wife called the theatre where the play we'd planned to see that day, and exchanged our tickets for next weekend, then drove me home. I was still wiped out on Monday, and was getting better yesterday. I feel pretty good today, to the point that I've done things. I've walked around without getting fatigued, which was a plus. Especially given that I have my appointment tomorrow.

3. OMG NEW DOCTOR!!!!! Now that I'm not completely exhausted, as I was when I found out on Sunday, I can properly squee over the new announcement. Jodie Whittaker! Now, I have no idea who she is, since I've not seen Broadchurch, but I have yet to be truly disappointed by a Doctor. I haven't known much about any of the Doctors before seeing them in the part, honestly, so I'm just living on the squee of knowing. I have thoughts and feels, but I don't have the coherence to put them down just yet.

4. Doctor's visit tomorrow. So, I have my appointment with an oncologist-gynecologist tomorrow in the early afternoon. The office is an hour away, assuming decent traffic. I'm nervous, but I'm looking forward to the visit. It's taking action on this almost-cancer thing, and I'd rather be taking action than waiting. My mother-in-law is driving up to go with me, since my wife has to work, and my mom's too far away for a day trip. Mom's planning to come up for a few days after the surgery, whenever that will be. I'll hopefully have more information on that tomorrow.

So, yay. Life updates. Some happy, some not. I think the positive outweighs the negative right now. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'll still feel that way after tomorrow.
 
 
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everchangingmuse
14 July 2017 @ 06:56 am
I find today's questions especially apropos, considering my sister is getting married tomorrow, and we're going down after my wife's done with work today to start participating in wedding-related things. So, though it's been a long while, I'm doing the Friday Five.

1) Do you want to get married? I am married! But, I would not mind doing a vow renewal.

2) Where would you like to get married? I got married in C-ville. If I did my dream renewal, I'd love to do a destination one in either Vienna or Copenhagen.

3) If you were getting married in a week, who would be in your wedding party? I didn't have a wedding party per se the first time, so.... My brother, my sister (pretending she's not on her honeymoon), and a few friends from college.

4) What would your wedding colours be? We did reds and blacks last time, for what little we chose colors. This time? Purples and blues and cream. And blue hydrangeas. Always blue hydrangeas.

5) Does marriage mean to you 'til death do us part?' Yes. My wife and I both feel this way, for us. It's different for every person, but we wouldn't say words to that effect if we didn't mean them.
 
 
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everchangingmuse
09 July 2017 @ 10:45 pm
So, my younger sister is getting married next Saturday. Oh my goodness. My baby sister is getting married! She is eleven and a half years younger than I am, which means she's old enough to have earned two masters degrees, but I've thought of her of my baby sister for a long time. My nickname for her has been "Chibi" since she was about eight. However, time marches, and my perspective is not fact, so getting married she is.

I'm super stoked for this. She's been excited and looking forward to this since she got engaged over a year ago. Her fiance is sweet and kind, and kind of quiet. We all like him, despite his opinion on The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra, our family's go-to movie (we tease him good-naturedly, and he's cool with it).

Not only am I excited for her and her fiance, I'm excited to see my extended family again. It's been a few years since I've seen many of my cousins, uncles, and aunts - most of my dad's side I last saw at my grammy's funeral, and my mom's at my grandfather's funeral. Having a much, much happier memory of getting together is a huge plus.

Also a huge plus - sisterly bonding time! My sister's got a 6am hair and makeup appointment on the day of her wedding (her wedding is a late morning one), and I'm the one picking her and one of her bridesmaids up to get them to the salon. Getting up at o-dark-thirty is never fun, but she asked me to help, and I'm excited to do so. I also get to give her a rose during the ceremony itself. My brother's giving one to her fiance. It's a really sweet thing that she's explained to me in the last few weeks.

So, countdown:

1. Dress - in progress. My wife and I ordered dresses from eShakti and got them tailored to fit. They should be here on Wednesday. I'm looking forward to having a dress tailored to me. And, synchronicity being what it is, my dress has a rose print. Squee!

2. Present - DONE. We picked up a couple little things on vacation, but today we took care of the largest part of the gift. Also got a card that isn't a traditional wedding card, but it fits her personality and the way she talks about her relationship to a T.

3. Hotel Reservation - SO DONE. Got that taken care of ages back. We're rooming with my brother and his girlfriend, which is good for all of us, since we're splitting the cost.

4. Outfit for Rehearsal Dinner - DONE. Something that's already in my wardrobe. I'm not technically in the wedding party, so I just have to dress up a little. School-appropriate wear is my plan.

5. Post-Wedding Dinner Plans - in progress. My sister asked if I'd talk to our parents about getting reservations together for all our extended family to have dinner after the wedding at a place that's near to our hotel. She and her then-husband will be dining elsewhere, but she wants to be able to see us all before she goes, since they'll be heading off to a honeymoon in Europe within a day or so of the wedding. I talked to mom, who said she'd talk to dad. But, she didn't. So my sister brought it up with dad, and when I talked to him today, we discussed options, and he said he'd take care of it. I'm going to follow up probably on Tuesday, because if he hasn't, I'm going to do it myself.

Those are the big things on the checklist in our household, assuming my sister doesn't call or text with last-minute requests. I've been on the periphery for the vast majority of this wedding planning, and I'm cool with it. It gives me a lot more freedom to do the things my sister thinks of and asks. It's low-stress, which is good for me, given my medication and such. My sister has been super-thoughtful about all of us and how we'll best fit into her day, not only for what she and her fiance want, but what we'll feel most comfortable doing. Yet another reason my sister is the best.

I can't wait to see her get married on her terms, and see how happy she's going to be next weekend!!!
 
 
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